Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Where to

I discovered last night that Rebecca has had a secret email account she has been using to communicate with G. Over the last year at least, they have been meeting, emailing and professing their feelings for each other. They never used the word love, but it's pretty evident.

She has been meeting him without my knowledge and sleeping with him. She denied it up until she had no choice but admit it.

I opened this door myself. I thought we could walk through it together, but she left me behind. She says she doesn't love him, but I can no longer trust her word. She knew I had no problem with the physical part. She hid it because of the emotional part.

A warning for all of you out there. I thought I had the most honest, loving wife. I didn't. I thought she was different. She wasn't. No one ever really knows someone. We were perfect or so I thought.

I'll be wrapping this blog up now. When you go back and read the entries, remember I was a fool.


  1. Yikes! I'm sorry to hear about how things have turned out. I hope everything turns out for the best.

  2. Sorry. This is terrible. How did you find out?

  3. Please continue to update us...

  4. I had suspected this after her late evening with him on Sept 6. Anyone other than G?

    1. You meant the one on Sept 4th that you wrote about? Some commenters expressed their suspicion as well. Hope it'll turn out for the best though.

  5. I've been reading, and lurking, for a while. I also hope all turns out for the best for you!

  6. Fuck ! Hey I'm sorry to hear this - I was living through your experience and this was a punch in the stomach for me. In a way I feel betrayed. I hope you guys get through this and I'm sorry at this point you are going through this.

  7. Please don't give up on her. It is a learning curve. She still loves you first and foremost, you can tell by the way she still responds to you in bed. Don't be rash. You are hurting now, but you need to ride it. Talk, talk and talk more. Maybe you need some time alone together. Go to Mexico, spend a week together. Talk, love and heal together.

  8. Ditto to what Jay said. This is what you have been dreaming about. Imagine how much you will enjoy hearing the details now that the truth is out there.

    You have a wonderful wife and you wanted this all along, it just didn't happen exactly as you had imagined it, but what in life does?

    This is not the end of the world and it doesn't have to be the end of your loving marriage. Take some time and work it out.

  9. How are you feeling today? Hope it's getting better.

  10. I've lurked on your blog for quite some time, and found myself living vicariously through your story, given my wannabe status.

    I feel your sense of betrayal, Slider. I also imagine you must be experiencing a fair amount of self-recrimination at this point. Though you chose to open the door, Rebecca made her own choices as to how she went through it.

    Though you haven't shared all the details, it would seem that all is not lost. I hope both of you choose to examine both of your roles in this situation, rebuild your trust, and salvage what had/has been a loving relationship. Make no mistake: You both have that choice in front of you.