Tuesday, January 4, 2011

A New Approach

We men are selfish when it comes to sex. There I've said it. On the other hand, Rebecca is very unselfish. She was raised in a good Catholic home, having been told by her mother early in life that her duty as a wife is to give her husband sex whenever he wants it. Keep in mind she was never told that she should want sex for herself, only that she should submit to me whenever I ask. Now most men would certainly be very happy with this. I can count on one hand (and still have fingers left over) the number of times over our thirteen year marriage that she has turned me down.

In spite of her Catholic upbringing, she has developed a healthy sex drive, and she certainly enjoys sex, but I believe her traditional values have stunted her level of comfort in initiating "action". She was brought up to respond more than to initiate. Don't get me wrong, she does drop hints when she's feeling horny. I've learned to interpret these and act appropriately (most of the time). Other times when I haven't guessed right, her sense of duty kicks in and I'm led to believe I was right.

I on the other hand am bit of a polar opposite to my lovely wife. I grew up as a very horny teenager, then young man, and now I'm a (lower) middle aged horny man. I remember as an eighteen year old at college, going into the local corner store to purchase a copy of Penthouse letters. I would go home and take care of business. Along the way, I was exposed to all sorts of fetishes through the written word. I went through phases of what I liked and didn't like, all the while building my repertoire of stories to tell my future wife. Now of course there's the Internet, and no need to embarrass myself with the local merchants. My tastes changed along with my life, and my desires are focused around my wife and her pleasure.

My desire for her to embrace and pursue pleasure has led me to where we are today. I have never spared myself any sexual pleasure, and I want her to have the same thing. I have decided that in conjuction with my efforts to have her become more selfish, I should probably scale back my selfishness. Baby steps as they say. The first of which is to experience a sexual encounter with her where I don't reach my peak. Too many times I've forsaken her pleasure to quench my own. How many husbands can say they've satisfied their wife without peaking themselves? When I was eighteen, it would have been a foreign concept. Wish me luck... I'll keep you posted...


  1. Hey "slider", I found this blog through your profile on the Our Hotwives site. I read your response today to the guy struggling with his feelings, etc. Your story was about your wife's Vegas trip.

    Anyway I just wanted to say Hi because after reading your blog entries here, it seems that you and I have a great deal in common. I literally could have been reading my own blog entries word for word. It's refreshing when you finally find another person who seems to be in the exact place in life as your own self.

    Anyway I just wanted to say Hi, good luck, and I selfishly hope you keep this blog going.

    If you wanna chat sometime shoot me an email or IM at coywink@yahoo.com.


  2. Thanks Bruce,
    I think that like anything, we have to enjoy the ride moreso than the destination. That's what this blog has really been about. Thanks for reading. You're my first follower...