Summer Holidays

Yesterday, while we were having supper at the kitchen island, Rebecca showed me a short texting exchange she had earlier in the day with J. 

J is the husband of her friend, L. L is her good friend who accompanied her on that Vegas trip I wrote about a few years ago. ( I can't believe it has been that long ago) 

http://a-husbands-thoughts.blogspot.ca/2010/11/surprise-vegas-getaway.html?m=0

Anyway, L's husband, J has always had a bit of a crush on Rebecca. It's funny, because we see him as a bit of an innocent guy. L was his first and only sexual experience,

We're going on a family holiday with them again this summer to our wine country. We rented the same house we did with them a couple of years ago. 

J was texting Rebecca to collect our portion of the rent, which was due to be paid. His flirting is all pretty innocent, but he joked about having to pay for their ( Rebecca and his) romantic week together. 

Rebecca actually flirted a bit back, which surprised me. I don't remember the actually text, but she joked back with him.

Rebecca and I went on to discuss J and L's sex life. As I understand it, he's a bit of a "put it in and go" kind of guy. Apparently, L tries to give him directions, but like most men, he's too proud or stubborn to listen.

I can admit, even though it was pretty innocent,  the conversation got me pretty riled up, so when we went to bed, I was all over Rebecca. 

I was massaging her ass while she was on all fours. She slowly raised up into the doggy position. I'm not sure what possessed me, but seeing her ass in the air like that, made me want to lick her. I gently tongued her ass and she moaned her consent. 

It wasn't long before I was positioned behind her, pumping her doggy style. I looked over and saw a jar of Vaseline on our bedside table so I opened it and spread it over her ass. Then, as I pumped her, I worked my finger into her tight ass.

The doggy position was actually awkward for this, so I rolled over on my back and had her climb on. This is her favourite position and generally cums easily. While Rebecca rode me, I got another glob of Vaseline on my finger and pushed my entire middle finger inside her. 

I thought I needed more lubricant, so I pulled my finger out to get a little more. As I was reaching for it, she started grinding harder against me. I could tell she was going to make herself cum, so I quickly, and pretty forcefully pushed the full length of my finger inside her tight ass.

The timing was great because she started cumming as my finger entered her, and kept cumming all along its length. I could feel her contractions on my cock and my finger at the same time.

She came down from her orgasm and I handed her the Vaseline. She sat up straight me, cock still deep and pushed her Vaseline coated finger into my ass. She rocked back and forth, pushing her finger in as deep as I had been in her.

It wasn't long before I came hard inside her. All in all, it was a great night..

I was writing this account in bed this morning while she got dressed. I wonder what J would think of this view?

Rebecca at the Gym

Rebecca texted me that she was going to the gym this morning. She goes in to work around 6:00 each day so she can be home shortly after 3:00 to meet the kids. 

Rebecca: Good morning yummy. I am going to the gym. See how this cough does.

Me: Tell me after how good your ass looked in your lulu's. :)

Rebecca: lol

She went to the gym and we texted on and off about the kids.  Then she sent this:

Rebecca: Forgot to mention that my hankys were a bit wet this morning at the gym... good thing the lulu's are black.

I love the idea of her working out, wet pussy with only a thin layer of fabric between her and the world. 

Back In the Saddle

Just a short post to let everyone know we're doing great. Rebecca has booked a holiday for us in Mexico in July. I'm looking forward to seeing her in her bikini.  Until I get the writing juices flowing, here are a couple pics she posed for when she got home from from work today.

Her Bikini body is looking hot, and I can't wait for others to see it.

Checking In

Just checking in. Not a ton happening in the way of excitement, but Rebecca and I have been doing very well. 

I don't bring up the hotwife thing much anymore, but I do think about it daily. Looking back I did enjoy her dating even when I thought it was "just drinks" with G. 

Part of me is optimistic she might even just want to do that for a little excitement. There are still a few guys she stays in touch with through work, and I think she would enjoy going for drinks with a couple. One in particular, M, from an out of town office, seems to check in with her every once in awhile. This is the divorced M, not the married M who grossed her out a couple years ago.

This M seems to enjoy her company, and comes to town occasionally because he has a gf here. When he visits, he seems to find a reason to get ahold of R via text to say hi. I would assume he's fishing a bit for a date. I think it could be exciting for her to go out for a drink, even if it was platonic.

Our sex life is still pretty good though, a couple times a week, which I'm sure many husbands would be envious of. 

On a somewhat related note, I was reading reviews of "What Do Women Want?" By Daniel Bergner and I think I'll pick up a copy. It seems like he asks the right questions, which I believe is important, sometimes even moreso than the answers.

I'll post my thoughts on it once I get into it.

New Years Eve Day

We've been in cruise mode for the last little while, so not much in the way of news to share. I'm always thinking of course, and observing, so while Rebecca and I haven't touched on the HW thing lately, things do cross my mind.

Recently we were over at another couple's place for dinner. The wife is "L", who is the woman Rebecca went to Las Vegas with a couple of years ago. ( really, has it been that long?) Her husband is "J". If you haven't read the blog post from back then, you should, it was a fun trip for them, and they still talk about it when we get together.

L and her husband have been married a few years less than Rebecca and I. L was her husband's "first", which is something to consider since they were married in their late 20's/ early 30's. He was, and still is, a pretty quiet guy, which explains it a bit I guess.

We've gone on family vacations together and everyone gets along quite well. Over the years, J has become more comfortable around us and has even started flirting a bit with R. It's funny to watch, as he's not the most assertive guy in that respect, but Rebecca gets a kick out of his dry sense of humor.

Because of Rebecca's chats with L, I've gotten a second hand account of L and J's marriage/sex life. It sounds like he is much more of a "wham-bam, thank you ma'am" than L prefers. I think it has to do with a certain lack of experience. Don't get me wrong, we all love a quickie now and then, but I also think it's nice to take time to tease and drag out the "courtship" once in  awhile.

He often retires to his office while L watches T.V. by herself. I think that most men, myself included, don't understand that a wife needs to be courted during the day in order to be turned on at night. Ignoring her from nine to five, and expecting her to want action at night just doesn't work. As Rebecca has put it, women need to feel close to their men to have sex, and men need to have sex with their women in order to feel close.

I guess many men think it's the wife's duty to put out on demand. Getting your rocks off while your wife just lays there barely scratches the surface of what a woman is capable of sexually. Over the years, I have really appreciated those times when I can tell Rebecca  is turned on. I mean, I can take care of myself when the time comes, that is never a problem, but when she is excited, she exudes this sexuality that is had to describe because it's so discrete. In hindsight, it was there during her months of seeing G.

Going back to L and J, it's easy to see from my lofty perch what the two of them need. L needs to be seduced, preferably by her husband, but possibly by her own G. Her husband on the other hand, has to learn that a woman wants more than TV time on the couch. Given the right circumstances, a lover on the side solves many of these problems, but of course, problems can arise when the communication isn't there.

As for Rebecca and I, our sex life has been pretty good lately. I still fantasize about her with other men, but keep it filtered from her for the most part although last night my mind started to drift a bit. We were in bed, and I took off her pajama bottoms. I remembered the time awhile back during her relationship with G when at one point she turned over and offered herself to me on all fours. It was a small thing, but it was a watershed moment for me, realizing that it was the first time she had done that spontaneously.

Rebecca will read this and probably feel uncomfortable, but I hope she will understand that sometimes, I have to indulge my fantasies. It's hard to describe the feeling to someone who hasn't experienced it, but when she is bent over like that I can feel her pelvic bone pressing on the underside of my shaft, squeezing.  At the same time, the cavity in her pussy opens up and I can feel the open space around the upper part my shaft. Finally, because the angle allows me to get deep, I occasionally feel my cockhead bump into her cervix. It's an amazing combination of sensations. Combined with the knowledge that G was inside her like that, I didn't last long, which is unfortunate.

I'm at a point where I don't feel much in the way of bad feelings from her being with him, and I hope she will start to understand it. We don't need to shut out the past entirely, but rather take what good thing we can from it. I'm looking forward to 2014 with my beautiful, sexy wife.

Rebecca, if  you're reading this, I love you and I'm extremely happy with the life we've made. Happy New Year!






 

Grey's Anatomy

Rebecca and I have watched Grey's Anatomy since the series started years ago. The last episode we watched together had a couple in their mid to late sixties at the hospital. The wife of the couple had terminal cancer. During her stay in the hospital, she was interviewing women to replace her after she was gone. The twist in the story was she was interviewing the women to take care of her lover after she was gone, not to take care of her husband. Her husband was fully aware of her relationship as it had been going on for years. It was explained that both the husband and the wife had other lovers and were more like best friends.

One of the intern doctors in the show made comments to the effect that while it seems strange, the stability and strength shown by the dying lady and her husband is something to envy.

This of course got me thinking about things.

From my perspective, I will always be turned on by the thought of Rebecca with another man. I love the idea of her letting loose and enjoying her sexuality. There is no bigger turn on for me than that. 

The excitement I experienced by just the possibility that she "could" is hard to describe. There were a handful of times when she was seeing G that she came ever so slightly out of her shell and talked to me. And although I thought nothing had happenen yet, it was our little secret and I felt closer to her than ever before.

Of course that all came to a crashing halt with the discovery of what they really had going on, and what she wasn't sharing with me, but I'm mature enough now to know how difficult it would have been under the circumstances, to share something like that. 

But we were oh so close. Our sex life was on fire and I felt closer to her than ever. Not bad after fifteen years of marriage.

The catch was that in order for something like this to work, a couple must be focused on each other, and approach it by being completely selfless to each other. A wife who realizes how much she can please her husband by feeding that sexual energy back into their marriage will light a fire in their bedroom. A husband has to give himself over to his wife and experience his sexual excitement through hers. That sort of reciprocal trust is what true marriage is about.

This doesn't need to make the husband weak in the eyes of his wife. His strength comes from the strength in their relationship and knowing she will always put him and their marriage first. 

Traditionalists will argue that there are several potential pitfalls with this arrangement; that a man and woman should be sexually exclusive. It has worked that way (kind of) for centuries, and it still can work. I agree that traditional marriage can work, but I can also argue it only works half the time, possibly less. Maybe if we were a little more open to these alternative arrangements, there would be a lot more fires lit in a lot more bedrooms, and a lot fewer broken marriages.

Rebecca and I came very close. We both acted very "human", which I believe kept us from making that successful jump. Now we're back safely on the solid ground of our monogamous marriage, and I am thankful for it. Maybe one day, as we both mature, we'll have another opportunity to take our level of trust and communication up a level.

The Old Days

It's been long enough that I think I can reflect accurately on things. Looking back, it's easy to have pointed a finger at Rebecca and blame her for hiding the G fling. 

I don't look back as often as I used to, but when I do now, I can pinpoint the times when I had given her every reason to be worried about my reaction, had she told me.

Even in the initial stages when I saw her starting to branch out, my reactions and jealousy would have given her every reason to be discrete. 

At the time, it was unnerving to have gently pushed her in that direction, with her fighting it, only to see signs that she was actually attracted to him. The protracted dance of "I'm not interested", to snooping through her texts to learn it was the opposite was more than my maturity level could handle, and she would have realized that back then.

She was enjoying herself, but most likely  feeling guilty about it. She's not a great communicator and I'm too much of a thinker. 

Quite honestly, if I went through this again, knowing what I now know, I would still be challenged by the emotions I would go through. 

No offense to the "slut wives" out there, but Rebecca isn't anything like them. She has had a grand total of three men in her lifetime. I think knowing that she is that discerning contributed to the angst I felt when things were developing with G. It's hard to control that emotion. 

Oddly enough, it's the angst that I miss now. I remember her heading out for drinks in the evening, and even though I thought it was innocent at the time, the feelings were incredible. 

Another thing I used to love was getting the occasional text near the end of the day saying that she was invited out for a drink and "is that okay?" It was something very hard to describe. 

Anyway, that's all I have for now. She's a great woman, wife, mom, milf. I do miss the "old days", but I'm grateful beyond belief that after all this drama, she ended up with me.