We've gone on family vacations together and everyone gets along quite well. Over the years, J has become more comfortable around us and has even started flirting a bit with R. It's funny to watch, as he's not the most assertive guy in that respect, but Rebecca gets a kick out of his dry sense of humor.
Because of Rebecca's chats with L, I've gotten a second hand account of L and J's marriage/sex life. It sounds like he is much more of a "wham-bam, thank you ma'am" than L prefers. I think it has to do with a certain lack of experience. Don't get me wrong, we all love a quickie now and then, but I also think it's nice to take time to tease and drag out the "courtship" once in awhile.
He often retires to his office while L watches T.V. by herself. I think that most men, myself included, don't understand that a wife needs to be courted during the day in order to be turned on at night. Ignoring her from nine to five, and expecting her to want action at night just doesn't work. As Rebecca has put it, women need to feel close to their men to have sex, and men need to have sex with their women in order to feel close.
I guess many men think it's the wife's duty to put out on demand. Getting your rocks off while your wife just lays there barely scratches the surface of what a woman is capable of sexually. Over the years, I have really appreciated those times when I can tell Rebecca is turned on. I mean, I can take care of myself when the time comes, that is never a problem, but when she is excited, she exudes this sexuality that is had to describe because it's so discrete. In hindsight, it was there during her months of seeing G.
Going back to L and J, it's easy to see from my lofty perch what the two of them need. L needs to be seduced, preferably by her husband, but possibly by her own G. Her husband on the other hand, has to learn that a woman wants more than TV time on the couch. Given the right circumstances, a lover on the side solves many of these problems, but of course, problems can arise when the communication isn't there.
As for Rebecca and I, our sex life has been pretty good lately. I still fantasize about her with other men, but keep it filtered from her for the most part although last night my mind started to drift a bit. We were in bed, and I took off her pajama bottoms. I remembered the time awhile back during her relationship with G when at one point she turned over and offered herself to me on all fours. It was a small thing, but it was a watershed moment for me, realizing that it was the first time she had done that spontaneously.
Rebecca will read this and probably feel uncomfortable, but I hope she will understand that sometimes, I have to indulge my fantasies. It's hard to describe the feeling to someone who hasn't experienced it, but when she is bent over like that I can feel her pelvic bone pressing on the underside of my shaft, squeezing. At the same time, the cavity in her pussy opens up and I can feel the open space around the upper part my shaft. Finally, because the angle allows me to get deep, I occasionally feel my cockhead bump into her cervix. It's an amazing combination of sensations. Combined with the knowledge that G was inside her like that, I didn't last long, which is unfortunate.
I'm at a point where I don't feel much in the way of bad feelings from her being with him, and I hope she will start to understand it. We don't need to shut out the past entirely, but rather take what good thing we can from it. I'm looking forward to 2014 with my beautiful, sexy wife.
Rebecca, if you're reading this, I love you and I'm extremely happy with the life we've made. Happy New Year!