tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441487253994480109.post4902361567253252635..comments2023-05-08T03:22:38.436-06:00Comments on Intimate Thoughts of a Married Man.: Lack of SleepSliderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15171817534663911687noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441487253994480109.post-48004761937728864412011-10-26T17:12:48.459-06:002011-10-26T17:12:48.459-06:00I just finished reading this blog from start to fi...I just finished reading this blog from start to finish. I decided to post my comment here because it seemed to me the most relevant post. First off, Slider I think it's great that you are putting everything out there and I think it is even better that Rebecca reads it (a definite plus if you give her space and time to read it). With that being said, a lot of what your emotional experiences in HW are similar to what my husband and I have gone through as swingers. <br /><br />I don't mean what I say next to be judgmental but merely an observation. I find it a contradiction of what Rebecca perceives as "cheating" versus her actions where she is not willing to give you full access to her emails and texts. The only reason I say this is because when my husband and I first started swinging every chat and every text message was read by both of us. There came a point where my husband doesn't read my texts anymore but trusts that I will tell him about anything important. As we both know what one person finds vitally important is another person's no big deal. I know hubby trusts me. <br /><br />I have been wondering how you could convey to Rebecca that the content of her communication with G is a huge part of the turn on for you. From what I gathered from my reading is that you have told her, but was it communicated in a manner that she could receive it? Just stating the obvious that men and women can communicate very differently. <br /><br />Just my two cents... for what it is worth.Anoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441487253994480109.post-16418236531869306092011-04-09T09:14:13.763-06:002011-04-09T09:14:13.763-06:00JF, I think you've nailed it. I think what I w...JF, I think you've nailed it. I think what I was struggling with is whether there is, or should, be privacy between a married couple. If you asked me last night, I would have said no, but as hard as it will be, I definitely have to back off. I can't very well offer her this freedom and then claw it back as soon as she takes it. I've already apologized to her. I just hope this doesn't scare her off enjoying herself.Sliderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15171817534663911687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6441487253994480109.post-48265188636546519852011-04-09T08:04:38.976-06:002011-04-09T08:04:38.976-06:00I just think that part of the thrill for her may i...I just think that part of the thrill for her may in fact be the private thoughts between her and her potential lover. In other words, you may not get to hear every single little detail of their conversations/e-mails, but what she does share with you will be well worth it. If you can't handle that, you might want to reconsider.JFBreakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10719992585455828870noreply@blogger.com